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Written by Carol Oschmann, Author, Lecturer, Dream Researcher   

Dear Carol, After seven years of being together, my fiancé suddenly died in 2002. Since then, I have had a number of dreams about him every year. In each one, George is sitting at his desk and I am talking to him about something. But his eyes are always closed and it feels as if he is looking beyond me although he is aware of my presence.

The most recent time, he was sitting next to me in our study and I was telling him to read a particular book. He said he would and was right next to me but would not look at me.

A friend of mine died within months of George, dreams about her husband and it is the same thing. His eyes are closed and he will not look at her. In her case, she claims she was waiting for him to call.

Answer: Eyes are said to be the window to the soul. Actually, after death we do not need eyes for a sense of togetherness. So, let’s go with George being a part of you. Write down three personality traits of Georges’. These are also yours whether you like them or not. If he made hasty decisions, are you making a hasty decision? The man in the dream could be any number of men you know and you need to ask, why George? What is there about him that I am portraying? If George is coming to guide you, is there something going on in your life where you do not see the truth? More than once, my grandmother, who raised me, came in a dream to warn me that a plan I was about to put into practice that was not good for me. I know because I carried through and she was right, I should have paid attention. The eyes had nothing to do with that story. In your case, and only you will know the truth, perhaps you have your eyes closed to a better decision, a move, spending money in a certain way, a job, a friends loyalty.

About closed eyes, is there something in life now or in the past that you are afraid to look at? Perhaps George is telling you to take a look, find a way to live peacefully with it. Perhaps it is a feeling, on your part, of not wanting to get involved with something. Since he is sitting at his desk or next to you in the study, is this business related?

Hope you can find an answer in these words.

Carol Oschmann, author of “God Speaks In Dreams: Connect With Him and Each Other” and “Prison Dreams.” She can be reached at This e-mail address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it . Your dream and dream questions are welcome.